{"id":669,"date":"2014-10-09T18:14:03","date_gmt":"2014-10-09T22:14:03","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/typingmonkeys.com\/blog\/?p=669"},"modified":"2023-04-27T18:47:17","modified_gmt":"2023-04-27T22:47:17","slug":"so-theres-that-day-17-part-deux-not-gay-not-dying-of-cancer","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/typingmonkeys.com\/blog\/so-theres-that-day-17-part-deux-not-gay-not-dying-of-cancer\/","title":{"rendered":"So There’s That, Day 17, Part Deux: Not Gay, Not Dying of Cancer"},"content":{"rendered":"

So There\u2019s That: Adventures in Transgendering chronicled my transition in 2014. One hopes the gentle readers will forgive any awkward or anachronistic language within.<\/em><\/p>\n

\u2014<\/em><\/p>\n

After my appointment at Beth Israel Medical Center, my day continues with two more reveals.<\/p>\n

Damn the torpedoes, etc, etc.<\/p>\n

The thing is, as happy as I am about my appointment at Beth Israel, I\u2019m still nervous. Really nervous. And this time it\u2019s mostly my own doing.<\/p>\n

I dropped an email to a former coworker, and to be honest, I\u2019m not sure how he will take the news. I mean, he\u2019s a really good guy. But he\u2019s a guy\u2019s guy. And we hung out together as\u00a0guys<\/i>.<\/p>\n

To complicate the problem, I phrased the email asking to have lunch rather awkwardly, leaving him to believe I had dire news to share with him. Like I\u2019m dying of cancer news.<\/p>\n

And don\u2019t just take my word for it. Enjoy my masterfully subtle email:<\/p>\n

Long time no talk. I was wondering if you have some time next week to get together. I have a few things I\u2019d like to fill you in on before things go public, so to speak.<\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Yeah, I\u2019m an idiot. A cute idiot, but an idiot nonetheless.<\/p>\n

We connect for lunch and I can see the look of concern on his face.<\/p>\n

Are you okay? I\u2019m here for you, man.<\/p>\n

If I weren\u2019t so nervous, this would be a pretty funny episode of\u00a0Three\u2019s Company<\/i>.<\/p>\n

So on the way to the restaurant I assure him. Not gay. Not dying of cancer. You can cross those two off your list. Though I do admit to working on a really crazy cover story to mess with his mind. \u201cYeah, I\u2019m starting a porn site and I want you to be the star.\u201d Something that would elicit Billy Bob Thornton\u2019s classic line from\u00a0Bad Santa,<\/i>\u00a0\u201cAre you fucking with me?\u201d<\/p>\n

We settle in at a Chinese restaurant and I start my spiel. Deep breath aaaaand\u2026 transgender.<\/p>\n

He is immediately and unabashedly happy for me. He tells me about a trans friend with whom he is helping to create a vast photography project. He is crazy supportive. And not in the let\u2019s-talk-about-fantasy-football way I have come to expect from guys.<\/p>\n

I know I sound like a broken record, but I am blessed with an extraordinary collection of friends. I never thought I would receive so much support. In a way, I feel guilty for doubting them.<\/p>\n

Amusingly, the guy sitting behind him is trying to eavesdrop on the conversation. Not sure if I can blame him as it is probably the juiciest conversation in the whole restaurant. I am tempted to ask him if he needs me to repeat anything but I let it go. This is a day for being positive, not jaded. That can come next month.<\/p>\n

We part with a hug, an honest-to-god hug, and I head back to work in a great mood. But I still have one more coming out tonight, with a young woman I used to work with. A wonderfully sweet girl.<\/p>\n

We meet for drinks and after some idle chitchat, I launch into my standard pitch. Moving to New York, yada, yada. Stuttering, blah, blah, blah. Aaaaand\u2026 transgender.<\/p>\n

She is fascinated by my story and by my journey and we have the most delightful evening talking about being transgender, being a girl, shaving legs, the effects of hormones and nicknames for breasts.<\/p>\n

Yup, I go there. I mean, guys always have the raunchiest words for breasts. Melons, knockers, hooters\u2026 hell, they don\u2019t even need to be real words. Gozongas, yabbos, hoohas. But I\u2019m intrigued to discover what words women use when guys aren\u2019t around. And I get two delightful examples.<\/p>\n

The Girls. And the Twins.<\/p>\n

I must admit that I don\u2019t exactly have women\u2019s breasts at the moment, but if and when I do, at least I\u2019ll know what to call them.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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